Fearful to Hopeful

The first step of moving from fearful to hopeful involves moving from being afraid to being a person who is experiencing fear. In order to to that, we need to be aware of the fear and observe it so that we can move beyond it. How do we take this first step to being a person who experiences the fear rather than a person who is afraid? First we identify the true fear, then we get curious with it. This will enable us to work on an action plan to overcome it.

To identify the fear we must answer the question: “What exactly are we afraid of?” “Are we really afraid of public speaking or the humiliation of forgetting our lines and losing our credibility?” “Are we really afraid of working from home for a longer period of time or are we afraid of losing the relationships we have built over the years?” “Are we truly afraid of the pandemic or the illusion of losing control that the pandemic has brought?” – Identifying the true fear involves going through the pictures and thoughts that run through your head and observing what you are truly afraid of.

Once you have identified the true fear, take time to get curious with it. What thoughts generate the fear? Is it when you are all alone or surrounded by people? Is it late at night or when you finish with another conversation with a specific person? Where do you feel the fear? How do you react to it? What color and size does the fear have? Just the act of observing the fear will enable you to have the tools to help you manage it.

The act of observing the fear by identifying its true source and getting curious with it will enable you to center yourself in the now and enable you to recognize it for what it truly is and how it comes about. This will give you the tools to build an action plan to help you manage, minimize, control and overcome the fear and move from fearful to hopeful.

Here is a video where I talk about it: https://youtu.be/JKST7oCcrH8

I am Ghaya Barwani and I help positive change agents like you move from internal discord to harmony so that they can be the positive influencers with their organizations, teams, families and communities. For a free consultation – Please book an appointment using the following link

Feeling Impatient? Breathe and Become Free

Are feeling overwhelmed, tired and exhausted, even though things seem to be looking up and changing? Do you have a lot on your plate? Do you feel: “Surely, I should be used to it by now?” I am here to say it’s OK.

Stop – focus on your body… How are you feeling when you are questioning yourself? Where are you feeling it? What are your thoughts and behaviors?

Now that you are aware of what is going on inside you. Take a deep breath and manage the thoughts and feelings so you can manage the behaviors. Accept them and work on changing them.

Now… Ask yourself… Is there anything I can do to change the situation without making matters worse for myself or others? – If the answer is “No” then find the “good” in the situation. Redirect the focus on something pleasant or interesting in the situation. For me I “find the funny”. If the answer is “Yes” then find the best way to change things for all those involved with understanding and patience for all those involved…

If you want help and support regaining the harmony in your life, please feel free to contact me for more information on how we can work together.


Find “Meaning” In Crisis – Set Your Legacy

The crisis came, hit you like a ton of bricks and although the grief of it remains, you are living your daily life managing the crisis. Post Traumatic Growth Research has found that finding “meaning” within helps people integrate the crisis and move to the new norm. Here are a few tools to help you find meaning during crisis.

  1. Set your priorities for the crisis. Priorities are not goals, these are your internal aspirations for the crisis. Do you want to maintain connections, be transparent or live with integrity? This helps you cut through the noise and make decisions that are in line with who you are and who you want to be.
  2. Establish small reminders to quiet your internal noise; these could be little post its around your home, setting your passwords as little mantras (Calm, Peace etc) or alarms on your phone to remind you to breathe.
  3. Target your prayers and meditation. Be specific in your prayers and manifestations; instead of “God get me out of this mess.” be specific “God I want the focus to get through this meeting with focus and peace.” Instead of general meditation to quiet your mind, have a guided meditation or a mantra to help you get into the meditative state.
  4. Learn something new, get creative, journal, mind map. Get yourself busy with the business of living, experiencing and documenting the good that is there in life.

For help and support on your journey to find harmony and be the leader and change agent you are – feel free to contact me or book an appointment.

Do the next “Right Thing”

Last week I talked about the benefits of living your life creating a legacy and asked you to define the legacy you want to create in your life.

Maybe you still don’t know what kind of legacy you want to create with your life. I completely understand that. We live in a confusing, complicated and overwhelming time right now. Even if we ignore the Corona Pandemic, life continues to pull our attention in a thousand different directions.

Thinking about the legacy you want to create may seem too strenuous and vague. If that’s how you’re feeling, then I suggest that you focus on doing the next right thing every time you’re faced with a choice or decision. Every time you do the right thing, in whatever way you define it, you create a powerful chain of actions which leads directly to a powerful legacy.

I invite you to take the time to identify the right thing for you to do so you can create a chain of actions that build towards your legacy. This link contains a series of 8 questions available to you for free to help you on your way.

Please share with me your experience answering the questions and the actions that this exercise has supported you to take. I look forward to hearing from you. Please feel free to schedule an appointment if needed.

Why think about the legacy you want to leave behind?

Thinking about the legacy you want to leave behind has 4 key benefits for you and your business.

  1. It gives you a sense of purpose, something to aspire to and focus your attention on beyond “What’s In It For Me?”. It builds a long-term foundation for your life, your family and your business
  2. It helps in ethical and responsible decision making to make sure that it benefits all those involved.
  3. Keeps everyone focused on the big picture rather than getting lost and overwhelmed in the minutia. How will this decision, path or action add to the big picture?
  4. Over 20 years of studies have found that organizations with an ethical purpose are more sustainable in the long-term and individuals with a solid sense of purpose are less likely to suffer from cardiac diseases and Alzheimer’s disease.

Take the opportunity now to decide the legacy you want to leave behind as an individual, a family member and business owner. Get others involved as well so you can have a complete picture.

Please contact me for any help and support you may require on your journey. https://ghayabarwani.com/working-together/